Bed time sex tips for couples - husband and wife - mostly focussing the advice for men for Perfect Orgasm

If you are under the age of 13, please do not read the following. It is NOT intended for you.
Bed time sex tips for couples - husband and wife - mostly focusing the advice for men for Perfect Orgasm -

• Leave the lady partner to do what position she wants to do.
• Do not dominate the lady partner in the bed.
• Let the lady do hip exercises, so that she can get the orgasm soon, compared to before.
• Do foreplay to her before you do sex with her.
• Excite her by doing different things, instead of directly jumping into intercourse.
• If you are doing something for 10 seconds, try to continue that for 10 minutes.
  
• Let the lady partner to be on top, so that she gets it faster and the man partner gets it slower.
• Do only sex with one partner that is your wife. - that is safe sex.
• Only 10% of woman in India get Orgasm; but in foreign (western) countries 90% get orgasm.
• Do not just do your activity and sleep off.
• Discuss about sex between the couples and understand what is good for her and what is good for you.
  

If both are happy, then the family will be in good happiness all the time. This definitely helps for a happy family!!!

Madurai Family Health - Cooperation between ladies in the family - Mother-in-law and Daughter-in-law

I am going to talk as a man (husband) in the family. This is about the cooperation between the mother and the daughter-in-law in the family.

When we get married, it is all happy. The man and woman are happy. The man and woman is in good agreement that they will respect elders and the wife agrees that she will see man's mother as her mother and man's father as her father. She says they are elders and she will listen to them. She will adjust to them etc., all crap.

Later, at some stage, she starts giving complaints about man's mother to him slowly, gradually and continuously. The lady who was a good and kind person, is now a bad person for the daughter-in-law. Slowly the bad weed is sowed in the man's mind and he has to hate his mother for not being good with the daughter-in-law. The man has to hate his wife for not being good with his mother.

The person who was a god for him (as a mother) is slowly going out of his mind, since she is not able to cope up with his wife. He hate the actions of his wife, for not cooperating with his mother. Why the f*** all these!? We should just stay as atomic family and be happy. Ultimately, the man goes through a bad phase of frustration, worry and anger.

There is no peace of mind for this man, because of the involvement of two ladies, who do not cooperate within themselves. Ideally, in the modern times, only the man adjusts and these two ladies do not adjust within themselves. They are very narrow minded and they don't resolve the problems themselves.

This is a fate for every family man, though he enjoys many facilities and emotions from the family members for all happiness and sadness. He has to go through this phase of dealing with these ladies in his lifetime!

One interesting thing is - you will have to listen to the complaints of your wife about your mother. If you are not listening, then you are hated by your wife and she is angry with you. Even if you listen to her and do not say anything - then also you are not left alone. You are asked to convince your wife that "it is ok; don't worry; mother is like that; you are good; i love you; i will talk to mother and 'scold' her for her actions" crap!!

In the beginning of the marital life, the wife is very good and she acts as if everything is good. But later, they don't go along well. In other hand, even mothers do not cooperate with their daughter-in-laws. They keep on getting friction with their daughter-in-laws. Can't they think that they are part of their family and consider them as daughters?

Mothers have some loose talk sometimes and that is their nature because of their old age. They don't think and talk; but they just talk and that hurts the daughter-in-laws. The mothers give off their other frustrations into their daughter-in-laws and frustrates the wife!

As soon as the man gets into the house or gets on phone with his wife, she starts complaining about his mother. What the heck! This is very irritating and no peace out of it!

Can't they be mature enough to deal within themselves? Is there a fight or argument between the son-in-law and father-in-law? May be sometimes, but that is not frequent. But the friction between mother-in-law and wife is a killer.

I am not saying it is a mistake of the wife or a mistake of the mother; I understand that the mistake might be in both sides. The man is not in a position to support either of them. Why can't they adjust and manage within themselves? Basic thing is maturity is not there, but ego is there!

If you are a mother-in-law or a wife or daughter-in-law, please consider this. This is not just a frustration article, but something to think about. Don't torture your husband(if you are a wife) or son (if you are a mother), and be good between you ladies - your spouse or son's life will be good and he will be happy!!!

I think this is universal and does not limit to just Madurai or Chennai or Trichy or Coimbatore or Tirunelveli!

Thanks for listening!!!!

Can parents be taken care properly in Madurai?

Parents are the ones who got us to the world and they have been carefully taking care of us and provide us education and get us to this stage.

They show us the love, bring us what we want!

Now, in Madurai, there is a news that - some people are bringing their sick parents and leaving them in the corridors of Government Rajaji Hospital.

And recently 2 of the sick parents died due to winter and cold temperature.

Hope this situation does not arise again - please take care of your parents!
That is good will and that is good for you!!

Same thing you kids will do for you.

My Madurai Father Part-II and my Health

My Madurai Father Part-II and my Health

Couple of Health Resolutions I have made this year.
A huge step - saying no to Alcohol, even to a small degree(even social drinking).
Preference to riding bicycle, instead of always using car.

This is going to drastically improve my health conditions.
Lesser vulnerability heart diseases. Self-motivated and less depression moments.
More fitness and normal weight for my body. Pumping my heart, periodically for good health!!

What I am doing is - My office is 1 mile from my apartment.
I go to office by bicycle in the morning, come back have lunch and then go back to office in the afternoon. By end of the day, I come back by bicycle in the evening. This gives me around 4-5 miles of exercise everyday. Even the commuting time is pretty much same as my car's considering the signal wait times and traffic. Isn't it worth?

While I ride my bicycle, I remember my father(dad).

Here is a first article I posted about my father - click here.

My grandfather used to walk all the way from his village Vadivelkarai or from Periyar Bus stand and come to our home in Madurai. My father used to go to work from TVS Nagar to Madura Coats (near Jail Rd, Madurai(near Arasaradi)). We are all spoilt people by using Car and not using bicycles.

My dad used to go this 12 km commute everyday and anywhere else he has to go, he still uses the same bicycle! Isn't it great? I guess, they use buses for other transport needs also. I feel happy and proud when I go by the same kind of bicycle and go to work for my family, apart from my health benefits!

I am also a good father, working for the family!!:)

Madurai Family Administration

I was imagining, if a family administration is done, similar to a corporation(city) administration. That would bring lot of organization in family. In fact, everyone would be already following this in their own family administration. However, they wouldn't have realized that they are doing this already.

I was looking into the madurai corporation administration and its several departments for running Madurai Corporation. Here are the departments in the family.

Departments:
Accounts,
Council,
Education,
Engineering,
Health,
PRO,
Revenue,
Town planning, and
Transportation

Council:
1) Family care and Love
2) Mostly taken care by the woman folk of the family.

Finance:
1) Save, Invest, Spend less
2) Find new ways for earning more - revenue
3) Personal Finance is very important for a micro-economy to function well.
4) Atleast one person has to be concerned about this, otherwise family would collapse. If both the members of the family are careless, it will be catastrophe.

PRO:
1) Connect with all friends periodically
2) Learn to talk nicely and elaborately

Transportaion:
1) Vehicle maintenance - bicycle, car, motor bike etc.,

Planning:
1) This has to be always ON and this has to be under the leader's umbrella.

Education:
1) Everybody in the family has to be educated; need to learn more; Literacy is important for the family - both short-term and long-term.

Engineering:
1) Find new things
2) Build new things
3) Business development and improvement

Health:
1) Walking,
2) Cycling,
3) Healthy Diet,
4) Daily vitamin tablet,
5) less or no coffee,
6) weekly once drinking/mild drinking only
7) more vegetables and fruits

Happy Family in Madurai

What do you need for a happy family?

1) Understanding spouse
2) Loving and caring spouse
3) Children
4) Satisfaction
5) Work to do for everyone in the family. At least one person as earning MONEY. Not necessary that another one also has to work to earn. But definitely something to do.
6) Savings is good.
7) Simple life.
8) Everyone likes you and your family. Being good to everyone - very difficult but possible.

The above is minimum. If you want to be more happy -

9) Wealthy - more money
10) Achievement in life - Success.

It is all my personal opinion.
If you think of anything more, please post it as comments.

One Happy Man

I was sleeping in my bed. My wife and my little (almost)2 year old daughter were awake and they were doing their morning course.

My daughter came slowly to me into my bed and said "appaa", "appaa", "appaa".
She touched with her cool hand on my back and said again appa, appa, appa..

She hugged me from my back and nicely cuddled to me.

What else do you need in life?!!! I am one happy man!!!
My little daughter loves me:) and with her sweet voice she calls appaa, apppaaa...:):)

Thank you God for everything!!

Madurai Family - motivation and responsibility

Madurai Family - motivation and responsibility:

Family is very important at any point of time. Wife and kids are the real fun.
They are the ones who keep us running daily with full enthusiasm.
They are the motivation.

When I see my daughter, who is just an infant (< 2 years old), I think of an education fund, a marriage fund, an exclusive savings for my lovely daughter. I feel there is a huge responsibility as a father to save for my daughter.
At the same time, I have a huge responsibility of savings for my retirement and my wife's. My wife is not working, so I need to save for her retirement too.

This keeps me going, in a way. I need to work hard, save, and build assets for my family and their future.
This becomes my primary motivation for running in the life.

These days it costs minimum (INR) Rs.25 lakhs for a good education. If you are thinking of education abroad, you need think much further financially. I don't really care about Marriage fund, but I do really care about education fund. This has to be planned much ahead.

In addition, I need to have atleast Rs.20,000 to Rs.40,000 per month as income in my retirement(considering the inflation rate), and also considering that I live in my own house.

I keep thinking I just need to work hard and harder in my current job and make sure I save for future.

First feed yourself, then your family, then your society and the world!

Hope you are in the same boat as me!

My Madurai Father and myself

I don't see any difference between what my father was doing and what I am doing?
My father was a labourer in a cotton mill in Madurai. His designation was overlooker (in tamil it is called maesthri). He had his colleagues and his own fun. He used to work for 8 hours.

He worked on machines to get the threads made from the cotton. There were further automation in the machines and he enjoyed his job.

I see the same thing with me too. I work on machines and I make something or atleast test somethings before it goes to the customer.

I have managers as my father did.

I think it is the course of a NORMAL life everyone goes through, unless we make a tremendous difference in our lives by finding something new or building something new! or becoming an industrialist etc.,

It is usually ideal to be 10 times different than your previous generation. But, I see myself to be the same person, as my father - except for little differences in my financial situation!!

I hope I will make some difference and give something new this world, than normal!!

My Madurai Brother

My Madurai Brother

While I was in the reminiscent mood, I thought of one more incident, which happenned when I was 5 years old and I was studying in first standard in a Big school in Madurai. My brother was studying second standard in the same school. His age was ofcourse 6(six). There was one guy in my class always disturbing me and torturing me. I was so pissed off. Remember I am 5 years old:).

I informed my brother about this and he had few friends. Remember - his age was 6 years. My brother - my madurai brother got frustrated and got together his friends in a lunch session. These lunch sessions in school are the real play time for many of us, if you remember your days. There will be two much running around by all boys and girls and no one would notice what is going on. That was the correct timing by my brother and his friends.

They got together and nailed and sketched "this guy(my classmate)" and brought him to a building wall. two guys caught this classmate and one guy kept punching at his stomach:). I keep on smiling when I think about this incident.

Lunch session was over. When I was in my first session, post lunch. My brother was called to my class and my class teacher was pinching my brother's stomach.:)

You see what has happenned? My brother is unfortunately caught and he is getting his punishment for what he did to help me:):)
Quite interesting!! I usually don't have a great memory and remember everything, bu this incident is fresh in my mind, even though it happenned at my age 5.