Madurai Family Health - Cooperation between ladies in the family - Mother-in-law and Daughter-in-law

I am going to talk as a man (husband) in the family. This is about the cooperation between the mother and the daughter-in-law in the family.

When we get married, it is all happy. The man and woman are happy. The man and woman is in good agreement that they will respect elders and the wife agrees that she will see man's mother as her mother and man's father as her father. She says they are elders and she will listen to them. She will adjust to them etc., all crap.

Later, at some stage, she starts giving complaints about man's mother to him slowly, gradually and continuously. The lady who was a good and kind person, is now a bad person for the daughter-in-law. Slowly the bad weed is sowed in the man's mind and he has to hate his mother for not being good with the daughter-in-law. The man has to hate his wife for not being good with his mother.

The person who was a god for him (as a mother) is slowly going out of his mind, since she is not able to cope up with his wife. He hate the actions of his wife, for not cooperating with his mother. Why the f*** all these!? We should just stay as atomic family and be happy. Ultimately, the man goes through a bad phase of frustration, worry and anger.

There is no peace of mind for this man, because of the involvement of two ladies, who do not cooperate within themselves. Ideally, in the modern times, only the man adjusts and these two ladies do not adjust within themselves. They are very narrow minded and they don't resolve the problems themselves.

This is a fate for every family man, though he enjoys many facilities and emotions from the family members for all happiness and sadness. He has to go through this phase of dealing with these ladies in his lifetime!

One interesting thing is - you will have to listen to the complaints of your wife about your mother. If you are not listening, then you are hated by your wife and she is angry with you. Even if you listen to her and do not say anything - then also you are not left alone. You are asked to convince your wife that "it is ok; don't worry; mother is like that; you are good; i love you; i will talk to mother and 'scold' her for her actions" crap!!

In the beginning of the marital life, the wife is very good and she acts as if everything is good. But later, they don't go along well. In other hand, even mothers do not cooperate with their daughter-in-laws. They keep on getting friction with their daughter-in-laws. Can't they think that they are part of their family and consider them as daughters?

Mothers have some loose talk sometimes and that is their nature because of their old age. They don't think and talk; but they just talk and that hurts the daughter-in-laws. The mothers give off their other frustrations into their daughter-in-laws and frustrates the wife!

As soon as the man gets into the house or gets on phone with his wife, she starts complaining about his mother. What the heck! This is very irritating and no peace out of it!

Can't they be mature enough to deal within themselves? Is there a fight or argument between the son-in-law and father-in-law? May be sometimes, but that is not frequent. But the friction between mother-in-law and wife is a killer.

I am not saying it is a mistake of the wife or a mistake of the mother; I understand that the mistake might be in both sides. The man is not in a position to support either of them. Why can't they adjust and manage within themselves? Basic thing is maturity is not there, but ego is there!

If you are a mother-in-law or a wife or daughter-in-law, please consider this. This is not just a frustration article, but something to think about. Don't torture your husband(if you are a wife) or son (if you are a mother), and be good between you ladies - your spouse or son's life will be good and he will be happy!!!

I think this is universal and does not limit to just Madurai or Chennai or Trichy or Coimbatore or Tirunelveli!

Thanks for listening!!!!